Navigating the Holidays after Divorce

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  1. Plan ahead! Don’t wait until the last minute to work out the details of the holiday. This includes travel plans, pick up and drop off and other details. Let everyone know in advance what the plans and schedule are.
  2. Try to work together and keep your children at the forefront of any plans.
  3. If there is a disagreement and you can’t reach a compromise, deal with this in mediation as soon as it is clear that you are at an impasse.
  4. Keep the kids out of the disagreement.
  5. Don’t compete with each other on gifts and plans. This is bad for your child and will give the message that it is all about what you get rather than the holiday itself.
  6. Even though the holidays are times for fun and relaxation, trying to keep some structure is important for the children.
  7. Establish new traditions and make an effort to celebrate these new events. You can’t go backwards.
  8. If you or your child are having trouble with the changes, don’t be afraid to seek professional help to talk through the issues with your feelings.
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About MickiMoran

Micki Moran is the founding partner of The Child and Family Law Center, Ltd. She dedicates her practice to providing legal assistance to children and families who are in need of representation in the areas of special education, disability law, juvenile and young adult criminal law, abuse and neglect, guardianship and mental health issues. Micki's practice is founded on the principle that children and their families require and deserve excellent legal representation with a multidisciplinary approach that works with multiple systems of care and creates communities that support and improve the quality of all peoples' lives.
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